IFS Coach
IFS Coach
“You were born into beauty, as beauty, for joyful life.”
— Pat McCabe
This page is the threshold to the coaching part of my work. What I offer here is not a treatment or a method to be applied, but a thoughtful, patient presence alongside someone learning to listen to their own inner system. The primary frame is Internal Family Systems, integrated with the attention to needs and feelings that Nonviolent Communication brings — and shaped, more broadly, by years of my own inner journey.
If you are new to IFS, the section below introduces the model. The pages linked further down describe how this takes specific form for different contexts.
What is IFS?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a way of working with the inner world that is both structured and deeply humane. It starts from a simple observation: inside each of us there are different inner movements — impulses, fears, demands, desires — that take the lead at different moments. We call these inner movements parts.
At the same time, there is also a more spacious place from which we can relate to all of this with clarity and steadiness. In IFS, this is called Self: not something to achieve or perform, but a natural capacity for presence, curiosity, and grounded attention.
At the same time, there is also a more spacious place from which we can relate to all of this with clarity and steadiness. In IFS, this is called Self: not something to achieve or perform, but a natural capacity for presence, curiosity, and grounded attention.
When inner reactions take over — anxiety, harsh self-criticism, tension, avoidance — access to that steadiness narrows. We often experience this as feeling overwhelmed, pulled in different directions, or at war with ourselves, spending a great deal of energy trying to keep these reactions in check.
IFS works differently. Instead of trying to fix or silence these inner reactions, we learn to listen to them and understand what they are trying to protect. As our relationship to them changes, the system reorganises itself: effort softens, clarity increases, and parts that were once in conflict can begin to collaborate.
This shift is not abstract. It shows up in the body, in attention, and in the way life itself is lived — with more ease, more enjoyment, and less inner struggle.
My approach
My approach is shaped by the conviction that there is always coherence to what happens inside us. The reactions we have — even the difficult ones — are pointing to something: a need underneath, a part of us asking for attention, a wound that hasn't yet had room to be felt. Listening to those signals, rather than overriding them, is where this begins.
My approach is shaped by the conviction that there is always coherence to what happens inside us. The reactions we have — even the difficult ones — are pointing to something: a need underneath, a part of us asking for attention, a wound that hasn't yet had room to be felt. Listening to those signals, rather than overriding them, is where this begins.
Feelings like anger, sadness, or fear can arrive in two quite different ways. Sometimes they are clean signals from the present, asking for our attention or our action. Sometimes they are the echoes of something older, a wave that rises now because something in this moment has touched something long unhealed. Both are real. But knowing which is which changes everything: the first usually asks for movement; the second usually asks for presence.
Behind every difficult reaction we have — every pattern of tension, avoidance, or self-criticism that has hardened into something familiar — there is a part of us that has been doing its best to keep something else safe, sometimes for many years. When we slow down to listen, with care for the pace and gentleness this kind of attention requires, those parts often soften — not because we make them, but because, perhaps for the first time, they feel met. Sessions are the space and the company in which that listening can happen.
Ways of working together
The Self-Led Artist
Coaching for musicians and artists working with stage fright, perfectionism, creative blocks, and the patterns that arise in performance and creation.
One-to-one IFS sessions
Inner work for any life context, beyond an artistic frame.
Coming later in 2026: The Self-Led Artist for ensembles · Relational and couples work
Background & training
- ·Internal Family Systems Level 1 training, with Pilar de la Torre
- ·Programme Assistant at IFS Level 1 trainings: twice with Pilar de la Torre, once with Imma Lloret
- ·The Essential PAUSE for Self-Leadership, with Joanna Curry-Sartori
- ·Interpreter at International Intensive Training in Nonviolent Communication (Spain 2026), with lead trainers Roxy Manning, Arnina Kashtan, Samuel Odhiambo, Constanza Echevarría, and Dani Muxi
- ·Interpreter at Healing the Healer workshop with Tom Holmes, for the Spanish IFS Institute
- ·Free Up & Play, workshop in Nonviolent Communication applied to stage fright, with Mieke Wouters
- ·Individual work in the Alexander Technique, with Anne Smith
- ·Member of the Association for Coaching
Continuing formation
- ·IFS Level 2 training, IFIO (Intimacy From the Inside Out), with Janet McCurdy & Joya Lonsdale. September–October 2026
- ·Interpreter at IFS Level 3 training, with Ann Sinko. October 2026
- ·Interpreter at IFS & Sexuality workshop, with Patricia Rich. December 2026
Free introductory session
One hour, online.
Prices
- ·Standard: 60 €/hour
- ·Sliding scale: reach out if you cannot afford this price. We will find a sustainable agreement.